As we age, the loss of a parent is often inevitable.

My family, around 1974. Photo by Mary McGrath

“ I don’t think I have much longer,” mom said out of nowhere. Funny how those who are dying seem to know it.

Mom and I were sitting on her bed in the den. Parceling out her life, we continued with her itemization of bills, and important contacts. Her legacy was laid out in endless paperwork as we exchanged more bank notes, phone numbers, and details. My mother was always very organized, even down to her own death.

“Here’s whom you need to call to make arrangements after I’m…


Who needs a gym when you can do these simple activities from your home?

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The doctors are always telling you to move, stay in shape, and lose weight. For some older people, this is great advice, but for others, this can be very difficult.

But I have found a few easy ways to exercise. And what’s even better is you don’t even have to leave your home! Here are a few you might like to try.

-Put your money where your mouth is
Better than eating potato chips, or another slab of pie.

-Make a mountain out of a mole…


How will I feel today?

Retirement is filled with a myriad of moods. Some days are good, others are a bit of a challenge. Here are a few I’ve endured. How about you?

Forever bloated-photo by Mary McGrath

No matter what I eat I always feel like this. It doesn’t matter if I cut down on my carbs, lower my salt intake, or eat prunes. Nothing seems to work.


I’m having my doubts about going abroad

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I know, everyone tells me that once you’re retired, you should travel! Think about all those exotic places you should see! Broaden your horizons! Learn about new cultures! Meet new people!

But I’m not sure I want to anymore. I’ve been retired since 2003, and I’ve already done a lot of traveling. Now I’m kinda liking my own home and some familiar surroundings. My doctors are nearby, and my friends are a phone call away.

My partner wants to hit the road again, and I wish I could be enthusiastic, but I’m not.


These activities really help!

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OK, so you have another empty day in front of you. Gone is your commute, the boss who hated you, and the promotion you never received. Your significant other is still working, so you’d better figure out something to do for the rest of the day.

Here are some proven time killers that will help. I have tried most of them, and it’s amazing how successful I have felt after completing them.

1. Hide and Seek Reading Glasses:

Take all of your reading glasses and stash them in different parts of the house. Put them in…


What do I do, now that I can do whatever I want?

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A few of my friends have recently retired. They have worked hard all their lives, climbing that shaky ladder and getting promotions to prepare for the future.

On the surface, they seemed relieved, but when I look into their faces I wonder what they’re really feeling.

I know on some level there is a relief for them because they have finally earned the right to do whatever they want. But I also see a little flicker in their eyes. …


What ever happened to boss, bitchin’ and groovy?

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Isn’t it funny how language has changed over the years? Words that were once so popular have somehow evaporated from our vernacular. Words like awesome and amazing are now having their day in the sun. Eventually, they will go out of style, but for now, they are here to stay.

Who remembers these?

  • Antsville: A congested place.
  • Knuckle sandwich: A punch in the face.
  • Shiner: A black eye.
  • Tank: A big car.
  • Ain’t that a bite: That’s too bad.
  • Ball: A really good time.
  • Flip your lid: Go Crazy.
  • Made in the…

Please don’t make me eat that!

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My mom wasn’t much of a cook. As a single mother saddled with six kids, putting anything on the table was a monumental feat for her. Still, she managed to cook every night, although some of her concoctions weren’t exactly edible.

Lima Beans:
Who invented lima beans? I think they are some of the worst legumes to consume. It seems like every week she put those critters on the table, expecting us to eat them. No doubt they were cheap, filling, and they had a sizable amount of protein. But to feel those little suckers…


What if we were really honest about our dearly departed?

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I’ve gone to so many funerals over the years. Some of the people I’ve known very well, and some I have not.

But let’s face it, those eulogies are pretty flowery. What if they were really honest? Here are some of the things we might hear.

He was the reason my company went bankrupt.

She stole my husband from me.

I always hated her because she was so thin.

He was a decent neighbor although his dog crapped all over my lawn.

I think he was a voyeur.

Didn’t she…


These things seem to be happening more frequently.

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A good friend of mine passed away yesterday. She was 82. Lung cancer got her, infecting her internal organs and orchestrating her demise.

I know she smoked, and even though she had stopped for several decades, the damage had been done.

As I approach my seventh decade, 82 seems pretty young, although it’s about six years beyond the national average. When I was growing up, 50 seemed ancient. Not any more.

Back then, the death of a loved one was very remote, almost as if it took place in another country. It…

Mary McGrath

Mary currently writes from Naples, FL. Some of her credits include: Newsweek, Wall St. Journal, Good Housekeeping, and Chicken Soup for the Soul.

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